Card Talk Winning Communication Games

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CARD TALK: WINNING COMMUNICATION GAMES

Card Talk:Winning Communication Games

Card Talk:Winning Communication Games

The writer ofthe book &quot&quot WilliamA. Donohue collates the art of communication with a poker card game.As per Donohue (2012), individuals play Talk Card games, instead ofplaying cards. The book explains that anytime a person crafts amessage through calling, talking, texting or writing someone, theyformulate the information from the part they play in the life of theother individual (Talk Game). Therefore, a Talk Game refers to theexchange of information between people with a particular goalassociation. The objective of such exchange is the Talk Card Gamethey want to play. In the conventional poker card games, only oneperson wins and the rest lose the game the Talk Game is different inthe sense that most of them are events for cooperating, whereby bothindividuals would want to win through achieving their objectives. TheTalk Cards have two divisions: Personal and Professional.

LRP# 1 forLecture 2: Language Card Games

Question 1

Myfriendliness score was is 16 points

My total powerscore was 14 points

My totalformality score was 11 points

My total topicfocus score was 13 points

My totalprecise score was 14 points

The totaldevelopment score was 12 points

From Itemsnumber 1 – 12, my total was 41 points

From items 13– 24, my total score was 39 points

Question 2

Five personalcards:

  1. Language Card Games

  2. Culture Card Games

  3. Social Identity Card Games

  4. Public Speaking Card Games

  5. Interpersonal Card Games

Fiveprofessional cards:

  1. Leadership Card Games

  2. Decision-Making Card Games

  3. Coordination Card Games

  4. New Media Card Games

  5. Public Speaking Card Games

The Topic Ican most play most often with my top personal card is the “CultureCard Games”

The topic Iplay the most in my top professional card is “Decision-Making”

The other twotalk cards I often play together with my top professional card arethe “Social Media Card Games” and the “Media Learning andEntertainment Card Games”.

I normallyhave difficulties shifting from one topic to another while playing atalk game because the people I play with might nit be interested inthe other topic.

Question 3

On the 16true/false questions concerning gender communication, I answered tenquestions correctly and six questions incorrectly. I thought I hadanswered everything correctly and expected to get all the 16questions correctly. I was surprised because I always though womenuse conversations to assert their knowledge, expertise, and identity.I never imagined women choose styles and themes, which target atshowing interest in others, knowing about other people and respondingto such needs. On the contrary, I thought women only think aboutthemselves as such I thought they did not select topics that wouldexplore other peoples’ details.

The biggestchallenge in talking to someone of my age of the opposite sex is thatwhenever I talk to them, they judge me before they listen to what Iwould like to communicate. Whenever I talk to a person of theopposite sex for the first time, I regularly feel they are alreadyjudging me.

LRP# 2 forLecture 3: Culture Card Games

Question 1

The personalcommunication scores are higher than those of indirect communication.I prefer direct communication to indirect communication because indirect communication one passes the message without or with littlemisunderstandings in contrast to indirect communication. According toCohen (1977), people who prefer direct communication like statingtheir messages clearly and express their opinions freely. Such peoplewho like direct communication are fond of raising controversialissues and when necessary, the application of high-power styles.However, according to Stacks &amp Salwen (2009), indirectcommunicators are ambiguous and like topics, which are subjective andopen to opinions to spare other peoples’ feelings.

Nevertheless,as much as I prefer direct communication to an indirect one,sometimes it is vital that the Talk Game player consider the subjectand the audience, or the subject is sensitive the player shouldreconsider and play in a manner to invite other opinions. Similarly,under certain circumstances, direct communication may to aconfrontation or attack to the person of another. Consequently, itmay become personal. For example, while, on a media platform, it iscritical that the player make it apparent whether what they aretrying to communicate is an opinion or fact. Otherwise, anotherperson may use it as defamation and sue the media house. In otherwords, sometimes the communication one takes may be catastrophic incertain conditions. Therefore, as Lim &amp Bowers (1991) assert,there is no absolute communication style for all times andcircumstances. Different situations call for different communications(Bond 1991).

I do not likemy home culture, and I would like to change the culture because mostpeople do not take criticism positively. Particularly, senior familymembers cannot accept positive criticism from their juniors. If ajunior family member tries to offer a different opinion, seniormembers put such person on the spot until they reduce the person.

Question 2

I was out withmy family members for dinner, and I started lamenting about howhateful my chemistry teacher, I turned around and the teacher on thetable behind me, the teacher heard everything. I was embarrassed. Toadjust my card play, I went straight to the teacher, and I apologizedfor talking about him, but I expressed my opinion that I always feltthe teacher hated me and stated the reasons, from that day, we becamefriends.

References

Bond, M. H. (1991). Beyondthe Chinese Face: Insights from Psychology.OxfordUniversity Press. ISBN&nbsp978-0-19-585116-8.

Cohen, R. (1977). NegotiatingAcross Cultures. Communications Obstacles in International Diplomacy.Washington DC: U.S. Institute of Peace Press.

Donogue, A. W. (2012) Card Talk:Winning Communication Games. ISBN:978-1-4652-2181-0

Lim, T.S., &amp Bowers, J.W.(1991). &quotFacework: Solidarity, Approbation, and Tact, &quotHuman CommunicationResearch 17, 415-450.

Stacks, D. &amp Salwen M.(2009). An IntegratedApproach to Communication Theory and Research.New York: Routledge.