GENDER AND INEQUALITY DISCUSSION 4
Genderand Inequality Discussion
Genderand Inequality Discussion: Liesand Conversation
Thedefinition of gender is not just based on the description of thefeatures of males and females, but also the roles that are known tobe of each gender. As a man, I take men as the gender that issupposed to be tough in life and also behave in a way that will giveleadership to the females. In addition, the male is the gendersupposed to take care of both themselves and also the female. On theother hand, the female is the delicate gender that takes care of themale gender and the family. These definitions are subjective to theperspectives of the modern society and do not reflect the truth abouteach gender.
Tocome to these conclusions, I have experienced the perceptions of thecommunity that tends to drive people to think in a similar way. Forinstance, teenage girls are treated more delicately than teenageboys, which is the same case for children in both genders. My teenagegirl sister was denied to visit her friends as a way of protectingher but my teenage brother will be allowed to visit his friendsfreely. This means that the society feels that men can protectthemselves while ladies cannot. This makes the definition of gender arelative aspect, especially when it involves the aspects of equalityamong the two genders.
Theseviews are negative in relation to the low profile that the societyviews the female gender. They are negative because they reflect thewider society and to women themselves as if they were a weak gender,which is wrong. Tannen (2010) argues that the perceived differencebetween gender is because women and men have different expectations.However, these views are positive because they reflect what isactually portrayed by the society in relation to both genders.According to Tannen (2010), the best way to find a balance betweenmen and women is to understand the problem and promote communication.Therefore, the positive aspect of these views is that they identify aproblem in the perception of gender by the society.
Itis now clear that we cause our own inequalities when relating towardsthe other gender. The inequalities are formed at the individuallevel, family level and society level. First, the upbringing in thefamily is not equal as the parents favor women more than boys when itcomes to care but teach the boys to be tough as men. Secondly, thesame perception is developed in the community, which makes the malechildren feel to be the superior gender. The perceived inequalityfurther extends to the social, economic and political aspects of thecommunity where most leaders are men. This finally circles to theindividual level where both men and women grow knowing that men aremore superior to women. Consequently, it creates a feeling ofinequality that is passed from generation to generation.
Generally,in defining gender, the most important part is the rearing of achild. This is because it is the stage that plays the part ofteaching and showing examples to the children in relation to gender.Children will take the view of the parents and the teacher inrelation to gender. Therefore, if a child grows seeing the mother asthe decision taker in the family, he or she will most definitely takethe perception that women are the superior gender which is not true.To create a balanced and an equal community, then child rearingshould be taken carefully to inform children of gender equality.
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