Noname woman- byKingston’s father
Iwas born in China from a family which was composed of five members,my sister being the only girl born from the family as well as thelast born of the same family. My sister was the most beloved personin our family. I was traded once by my father for a girl, butfortunately, my mother traded me back. My mother, immediately,becomes fond of her. After the wedding of my sister, we left forAmerica together with my sister’s husband, my brothers, and myfather. The trip marked the last trip to be made by father as he diedshortly. All those who accompanied me to America went back to China,but I could not return remembering the incident where I was traded bymy own father.
Igrew in a society where curses and traditions were the orders of theday. In our culture, woman was not recognized but unmarried lady wasseen through the mirrors of wealth and property. In fact, a woman whotended her appearance reaped herself a reputation that quoted a highdowry. Mode of dressing and hair style were also primary factors toconsider when the issue of attractiveness was raised Chinese did notadmire a bent- back person. In fact, goddesses and warriors werestraight. Male chauvinism dominated the whole of China traditions.Women had no choice over their bodies. To have a daughter duringstarvation, for instance, was a waste of time. Male children weremost favored than female ones. It was the responsibility of thefamily to search for suitable suitors for their daughters to marry.Young women had the disadvantage of becoming second wife. Nobodytalked about sex in a society that I lived in China. Rape and normalsex were equated as the same as the woman had no authority to disobeyorders. I lived at a time when poverty was roaming in China. Povertyled some people to be referred to outcast table. Due to poverty,among the very poor and the wealthy, brothers married their adoptedsisters.
Adulterywas not tolerated in our culture. The perpetrators of adultery weremortgaged, sold, or stoned. Taking a woman back to her parentssymbolized a sign of disgrace to the family. My sister wassurprisingly pregnant long after her husband was gone. This led toher condemnation, and the whole family was humiliated due to heradultery. The humiliation made my sister commit suicide and killing ababy in the process. During my time in China, punishment ofwrongdoers was taken seriously. The powerful older people in Chinamade offenders eat alone. Instead of letting them start a new lifelike the Japanese who become Samurais and geishas, Chinese familypunished the offenders by letting them feed on the leftover. Communication in Chinese was loud especially in public places. Onlysick people had to whisper. People were restricted to shout at dinnertables.
Istill feel ashamed of my sister, and I do not want to engage inanything that concerns her. Moreover, I do not want to mention hername or want my daughters to know her name. She will be foreverpunished even after her death because of the humiliation andembarrassment she brought to our family. I am offended by my sisterfor committing adultery with men of the village. She used sex to getother benefits while apparently knowing well that she was someonewife. The other reason why I am ashamed of my sister is her act ofcommitting suicide and killing an innocent kid. She was intolerant ofthe circumstances she sowed herself. I do not want my baby-child tobe like her aunt. She is a disgrace to our family. My sisteroffended me by acting as if she could have a private and secretivelife away from the villagers. She ignored the culture of the Chinesethat life was actually communal. I am also ashamed of my sister ofgiving birth in a pigsty. Our family, especially my parents, lovedher so much and could not have withstood the shame of their daughtergiving birth in a pigsty. Due to disobedience of traditions andtaboos of Chinese people, she will continue to be punished even afterdeath as she went against our culture.
Oneof my main agendas is to ensure that my daughter grow up to a totallydifferent woman and be fully educated. The education will deliver mydaughter from the oppressive Chinese customs and tradition thatdiscriminate a girl child. I want her to find herself a husband ofher choice. My daughter should be given freedoms that support herphysically, psychologically and emotionally. I will ensure that mydaughter gets a favorable environment where she can realize herpotential.
Analysisof Kingston’s father narrative
Analysiscan be deducted from the above narrative. One of the analyses is thathe (Kingston’s father) might have hated his sister so much becausehe was almost traded by his father for a girl. His sister receivedmore love from their parents than him. Therefore, there is some senseof jealousy on the side of Kingston’s father. He might haveconsidered himself important than her sister because the society theylived did not recognize the place of a woman. It can also be analyzedthathemight be feeling deeply sorry for her sister as she was still hissister. He had no many incentives to hate or condemn her like othervillagers or Kingston’s mother did. Blood is usually thicker thanwater, and, therefore, he might have felt sorry for her sister due tothe humiliation subjected to her by the villagers.
Anotherkind of analysis that can be retrieved from the above narrative isthat he couldstillbe feeling the humiliation made to him by her sister’s action. Itwas unforgivable for women to commit adultery in old Chinese time.Unacceptable for whatever reason, the woman would be the one toreceive the punishment. The author seems to be very aggressive to hersister knowing well the wrath that befell offenders of adultery.Another line of suggestion can be formulated that the author wasbrainwashed by the culture that women are part of men they are notindividuals, and they are goods to the husband’s family. Kingston’sfather seems to value culture and traditions. He also valuededucation more than other things. The author upholds these traditionsin such a way that shows that he believed in them. It can be arguedthat the author did not believe that a woman can live a private aswell as secretive life. He seems to believe that men are the soledecision-makers in the Chinese society (Roger & Lauren 25).
Anotherline of thought can tell that can be depicted by the narrative isthat the author might have been affected by western culture. He wasin the US, and more-some, he refused to come back to his mothercountry. Besides, he wants his daughter to have a different life fromthe villagers at home. He arguably wants his daughter to have a muchbetter life than his sister. Being in the United States changed hisperception of life. He used to view women as weak to overcomepressures and unable to fight their rights. He observed that everyindividual, mostly women in the United States, were given freedoms todo whatever they wanted. His view about women changed as he nolonger wants to see his daughter live a life like the villagers.Therefore, his view about women changed because he was in a westerncountry (Roger & Lauren 29).
Thedaughter is likely to change her moves as his father wants it.Learning from her mother experiences and stories of old China, thedaughter might have been offended by the oppressive culture ofChinese people to women. It has been observed that the daughter hadalready imagined making herself an American pretty to attract lovers.Kingston’sfather narrative depicts some lessons that education will surely makea difference to women’s life. Educating woman will consequentlymake woman become aware of their rights. The women through educationget inputs and abilities to create a fair and non-partisan worldwhere all participants can live healthy and productive and lives.Education is the key as Kingston’s father illustrates in hisnarrative. For any plan to be effective, education has to take partin it (Roger & Lauren 32).
Roger,Beutel & Lauren, Spencer. Writinga Narrative.New York: Rosen Central, 2012. Print.